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Embarrassment

This is a just a random epiphany I had the other day when thinking about an embarrassing situation. I ended up trying to fathom the logic behind what makes a situation embarrassing.
I’ve concluded that it’s quite simply one thing… Other people’s judgement.
When something embarrassing occurs, our initial reaction is “what will others think?” Or “omg everyone saw that they all think I’m an idiot”. And to that I say OH WELL. We live in a harsh world where things won’t always go our way, we just have to accept these situations, deal with them and MOVE ON.
The feeling of embarrassment is a man made emotion in the sense that it’s based on how society reacts to a situation.
This is my theory of the evolutionary benefits of embarrassment:
The negative judgment of the action by the cohort of people you want to maintain face with would mean that they may be apprehensive to allow you into their social group. Evolutionarily, we need a group of people to be part of to survive in terms of working as a functional group to carry out essential survival tasks.
However this evolutionary benefit is not as relevant to social circumstances anymore.
If we stopped judging, or avoided externally showing our judgment, then embarrassing situations would be no way near as traumatising. Also, it would be handy if we just MOVED ON from the situation and avoided holding it over the person’s head. This would in turn reduce negativity in the world, I’d hope. If the embarrassing situation was quite funny, then use it for amusement but not at the person’s expense. By this I mean use it to help them laugh it off… It could even be a conversation starter with that person and could break a barrier. You could end up easing into a friendship this way. I guess I’m being a bit optimistic now and I’m getting carried away with this post, woops.
The point I’m trying to make is don’t make someone feel uncomfortable about an embarrassing situation, just move on and be nice about it. We’ve all been there!
Nimbo
P.S: you might think this is a load of crap, but this is me putting my thoughts in a hopefully coherent form for when I need to dish it out as advice… Safeee
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Team work makes the dream work

Cliché title, I know.

Recently I’ve been on a journey with a group of people… a team… a family.

The camaraderie I’ve developed with these people will not fizzle out.

There’s something about the bond you develop with the group of people who you embark on a long journey with. I’ve thought and reflected on why this is. We all started the experience effectively as people different to who we became by the end of the process. We’ve all developed our own skills and strengthened both our physical and mental robustness.

Psychology would say that we have conditioned ourselves to associate each other with this new mindset to keep pushing ourselves. Seeing eachother now will subconcsiously remind us of the challenges we overcame and personal development we undertook.

What we’ve learnt and exercised from this experience in terms of personal development will be of a great value.

So if you are about to embark on a journey with a team, be prepared to learn from others and reflect any good qualities put into practice. Thrive off of the good energy within the team and challenge that into achieving your final goal or product.

Nimbo

 

An epiphany

A few weeks ago I had a moment… an epiphany.

The weather was beautiful: deep blue skies, a couple of perfectly fluffy clouds dotted in the sky and sunshine but with the crisp cool winter air.

I was roaming the iconic streets of my city, following a productive morning (in terms of studying) and a hospital appointment that went well. In my hand I held a healthy snack from a restaurant I love. I was due to go to a dance rehearsal later that day, for a dance style that I loved.

I was all by myself, but I did not feel the slightest hint of loneliness or negativity. I felt blessed. Blessed to be able to afford to eat; blessed to be able to walk freely; blessed to be healthy and well. It’s the simple things which we take for granted everyday that I was appreciating the most.

Having this time to myself also allowed for some self reflection. I evaulated where I was in my life and what I was doing.

I realised that I actually had a lot to be thankful for and appreciative of.

I’m grateful to have such a loving and supportive family and group of friends.

I’m grateful to have the opportunity to study something I find interesting, and that will gear me towards my dream career.

I’m grateful for all the experiences I’ve had in my life, as each adventure has shaped me to be the person I am today.

The greatest epiphany was to realise that I’m happy. I’m happy with where I am and I’m happy about the path I’m on with my life, as it’s the path I’ve created for myself.

It’s moments like this which keep you humble and self assured.

So my advice is this: take some time out of your busy lives to reflect.

It can bring some calmness and comfort to your mind if it is a positive reflection. If it’s a negative reflection, then simply strive to improve yourself and take actions to make that self reflection more positive.

I hope you all reach a positive epiphany one day too…

Stay humble and reflective;

Nimbo

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Success Vs Failure

I crave success

Most people in my generation idolise success, as if it was a person. Success is often portrayed in social media purely as something materialistic. I beg to differ; success is what you make it out to be.

There are loads of different types of success: academic, fitness, sports, careers, popularity on social media and many more.

To me the type of success which is most important is the feeling of accomplishment or happiness after completing or achieving something.

Success is more than the money and fame; it’s what you gain out of the experience which shapes you to become a better person. The ultimate aim for many, including myself, is to be the best person that you can possibly be. Personally, this means being as kind, open minded, adventurous, insightful, wise and hard working as I can.

We all hope to achieve big goals and aims one day; we must stay driven to achieve them. When you finally do, you can celebrate that success to your hearts content. But til then, don’t forget to recognise your small successes. Finally finished revising that topic you hated… and you finally understood it? SUCCESS! Finally reduced your 1 mile run time after months of slow improvement? SUCCESS! Finally woke up early and had a full on productive day? SUCCESS!

Recognise these small milestones, they’ll keep you motivated and help you keep sight of the end goal. Without recognising these small achievements, your path will seem longer, harder and more draining.

And then there’s the other side: failure.

We will all inevitably experience failure. No matter how positive a person you are, there will be at least 1 occassion when failure will upset or annoy you, even if it’s just a tiny bit.

The best thing to do is to channel that negative energy into something productive.

There genuinely is no point in wallowing in one’s sorrows; it is a waste of time and energy. That time and energy can be much better used trying to improve oneself. Try to address why that failure occurred; evaluate yourself and the situation. Be active in the process of improvement and take whatever actions are needed. If the reasons for the failure were out of your control, which can often be particularly annoying, then look for a plan B to achieve the aim of plan A. Remember, the plan may change but the aim doesn’t neccessarily have to change too. Don’t give up… as I’ve mentioned in previous posts, keep persevering and stay resilient.

Stay determined, stay positive, stay productive;

Nimbo

 

 

The Journey

For those who are lucky enough to know exactly what they want to achieve in life, may it be career goals or fitness goals, a winding path leads the way. More often than not, the journey along that path won’t be easy, especially if your goals require persistent and consistent hard work.

It’s easy to lose sight of the end goal amidst the struggles of the journey, but you must not lose focus. Your path won’t be straightforward and it may take many attempts to get there, but you shouldn’t stop persevering. Regardless of how long it takes, maintain focus and take action which will near you to the goal. Keep reassuring yourself that you WILL get there, especially if you have a genuine passion to achieve that goal.

It’s the journey that teaches you.

It’s the journey that lets you grow as a person.

It’s the journey that will expose you to many new experiences.

It’s the journey that will allow you to become wiser and more knowledgeable.

So enjoy the journey.

It is the above mindset which has prevented me from stressing about the future and has provided self-reassurance that I will make it, one day.

Nimbo