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Embarrassment

This is a just a random epiphany I had the other day when thinking about an embarrassing situation. I ended up trying to fathom the logic behind what makes a situation embarrassing.
I’ve concluded that it’s quite simply one thing… Other people’s judgement.
When something embarrassing occurs, our initial reaction is “what will others think?” Or “omg everyone saw that they all think I’m an idiot”. And to that I say OH WELL. We live in a harsh world where things won’t always go our way, we just have to accept these situations, deal with them and MOVE ON.
The feeling of embarrassment is a man made emotion in the sense that it’s based on how society reacts to a situation.
This is my theory of the evolutionary benefits of embarrassment:
The negative judgment of the action by the cohort of people you want to maintain face with would mean that they may be apprehensive to allow you into their social group. Evolutionarily, we need a group of people to be part of to survive in terms of working as a functional group to carry out essential survival tasks.
However this evolutionary benefit is not as relevant to social circumstances anymore.
If we stopped judging, or avoided externally showing our judgment, then embarrassing situations would be no way near as traumatising. Also, it would be handy if we just MOVED ON from the situation and avoided holding it over the person’s head. This would in turn reduce negativity in the world, I’d hope. If the embarrassing situation was quite funny, then use it for amusement but not at the person’s expense. By this I mean use it to help them laugh it off… It could even be a conversation starter with that person and could break a barrier. You could end up easing into a friendship this way. I guess I’m being a bit optimistic now and I’m getting carried away with this post, woops.
The point I’m trying to make is don’t make someone feel uncomfortable about an embarrassing situation, just move on and be nice about it. We’ve all been there!
Nimbo
P.S: you might think this is a load of crap, but this is me putting my thoughts in a hopefully coherent form for when I need to dish it out as advice… Safeee
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Success Vs Failure

I crave success

Most people in my generation idolise success, as if it was a person. Success is often portrayed in social media purely as something materialistic. I beg to differ; success is what you make it out to be.

There are loads of different types of success: academic, fitness, sports, careers, popularity on social media and many more.

To me the type of success which is most important is the feeling of accomplishment or happiness after completing or achieving something.

Success is more than the money and fame; it’s what you gain out of the experience which shapes you to become a better person. The ultimate aim for many, including myself, is to be the best person that you can possibly be. Personally, this means being as kind, open minded, adventurous, insightful, wise and hard working as I can.

We all hope to achieve big goals and aims one day; we must stay driven to achieve them. When you finally do, you can celebrate that success to your hearts content. But til then, don’t forget to recognise your small successes. Finally finished revising that topic you hated… and you finally understood it? SUCCESS! Finally reduced your 1 mile run time after months of slow improvement? SUCCESS! Finally woke up early and had a full on productive day? SUCCESS!

Recognise these small milestones, they’ll keep you motivated and help you keep sight of the end goal. Without recognising these small achievements, your path will seem longer, harder and more draining.

And then there’s the other side: failure.

We will all inevitably experience failure. No matter how positive a person you are, there will be at least 1 occassion when failure will upset or annoy you, even if it’s just a tiny bit.

The best thing to do is to channel that negative energy into something productive.

There genuinely is no point in wallowing in one’s sorrows; it is a waste of time and energy. That time and energy can be much better used trying to improve oneself. Try to address why that failure occurred; evaluate yourself and the situation. Be active in the process of improvement and take whatever actions are needed. If the reasons for the failure were out of your control, which can often be particularly annoying, then look for a plan B to achieve the aim of plan A. Remember, the plan may change but the aim doesn’t neccessarily have to change too. Don’t give up… as I’ve mentioned in previous posts, keep persevering and stay resilient.

Stay determined, stay positive, stay productive;

Nimbo

 

 

Mindset

Power is a weird thing. It’s something that people can use for both good and bad.

I believe that the mind is very powerful. It is the mind which can control you. Your mind controls how you think and what you think.

Often people say that you can’t control the mind fully, which I agree with. However I believe that the mind can control you as much as you give it the power to do so.

Mindset is very important. Mindset influences how you react in different situations and how situations can affect you. Maintain a positive and logical mindset, and your life will become less stressful. I know from personal experience.

I don’t like negativity. That doesn’t mean that negativity will stay away from me. It will definitely creep up on me many times, but I will not give it the power to adversely affect me. No. I will give the power to my positive mindset to deal with the negativity calmly and peacefully.

I’ve made the choice to uphold this positive mindset, and it’s this choice which has made me a more peaceful person.

No one knows the key to happiness, but I’m a firm believer that happiness comes from within. Strike balance, positivity and clarity within.

See how much of a difference mindset can make for you;

Nimbo