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Embarrassment

This is a just a random epiphany I had the other day when thinking about an embarrassing situation. I ended up trying to fathom the logic behind what makes a situation embarrassing.
I’ve concluded that it’s quite simply one thing… Other people’s judgement.
When something embarrassing occurs, our initial reaction is “what will others think?” Or “omg everyone saw that they all think I’m an idiot”. And to that I say OH WELL. We live in a harsh world where things won’t always go our way, we just have to accept these situations, deal with them and MOVE ON.
The feeling of embarrassment is a man made emotion in the sense that it’s based on how society reacts to a situation.
This is my theory of the evolutionary benefits of embarrassment:
The negative judgment of the action by the cohort of people you want to maintain face with would mean that they may be apprehensive to allow you into their social group. Evolutionarily, we need a group of people to be part of to survive in terms of working as a functional group to carry out essential survival tasks.
However this evolutionary benefit is not as relevant to social circumstances anymore.
If we stopped judging, or avoided externally showing our judgment, then embarrassing situations would be no way near as traumatising. Also, it would be handy if we just MOVED ON from the situation and avoided holding it over the person’s head. This would in turn reduce negativity in the world, I’d hope. If the embarrassing situation was quite funny, then use it for amusement but not at the person’s expense. By this I mean use it to help them laugh it off… It could even be a conversation starter with that person and could break a barrier. You could end up easing into a friendship this way. I guess I’m being a bit optimistic now and I’m getting carried away with this post, woops.
The point I’m trying to make is don’t make someone feel uncomfortable about an embarrassing situation, just move on and be nice about it. We’ve all been there!
Nimbo
P.S: you might think this is a load of crap, but this is me putting my thoughts in a hopefully coherent form for when I need to dish it out as advice… Safeee
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An epiphany

A few weeks ago I had a moment… an epiphany.

The weather was beautiful: deep blue skies, a couple of perfectly fluffy clouds dotted in the sky and sunshine but with the crisp cool winter air.

I was roaming the iconic streets of my city, following a productive morning (in terms of studying) and a hospital appointment that went well. In my hand I held a healthy snack from a restaurant I love. I was due to go to a dance rehearsal later that day, for a dance style that I loved.

I was all by myself, but I did not feel the slightest hint of loneliness or negativity. I felt blessed. Blessed to be able to afford to eat; blessed to be able to walk freely; blessed to be healthy and well. It’s the simple things which we take for granted everyday that I was appreciating the most.

Having this time to myself also allowed for some self reflection. I evaulated where I was in my life and what I was doing.

I realised that I actually had a lot to be thankful for and appreciative of.

I’m grateful to have such a loving and supportive family and group of friends.

I’m grateful to have the opportunity to study something I find interesting, and that will gear me towards my dream career.

I’m grateful for all the experiences I’ve had in my life, as each adventure has shaped me to be the person I am today.

The greatest epiphany was to realise that I’m happy. I’m happy with where I am and I’m happy about the path I’m on with my life, as it’s the path I’ve created for myself.

It’s moments like this which keep you humble and self assured.

So my advice is this: take some time out of your busy lives to reflect.

It can bring some calmness and comfort to your mind if it is a positive reflection. If it’s a negative reflection, then simply strive to improve yourself and take actions to make that self reflection more positive.

I hope you all reach a positive epiphany one day too…

Stay humble and reflective;

Nimbo

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