I am a firm believer in doing things for yourself. By this, I mean working hard to achieve your goals to make you proud of YOURSELF. But in order to do this you have to remain motivated. Sometimes it’s hard to motivate yourself with just the sense of self achievement. At times like this, I call upon the motivation of making those who mean the world to me proud.
Regardless of how much of an “I did it on my own” kind of person you are, there tends to be a supportive network behind the accomplishments. You probably had lots of support and positive influence from some special people, most likely from a young age. For many this is their parents. They worked hard themselves to give you the best life possible; they taught you life lessons and provided the means for you to have the opportunity to succeed and enjoy your life.
So when motivation is low, just think to youself…‘I am not only doing this for me, but I am doing this for THEM’. Make their efforts and sacrifices worth it.
Make THEM proud of you, whoever those special people may be.
Hopefully this gives you a kick up the backside to get back on that grind.
Recently I had a conversation with a friend about why we can’t get mad at certain people; by certain people, I mean our friends, or even members of our family.
Upon pondering this phenomenom I concluded a few things.
We can swallow our pride for these people. Normally, when we are in a conflicting sitaution with someone we don’t know well, or rather someone we don’t mind showing who’s boss, we are very quick to try to assert our authority. It’s only natural. I can imagine that this is an evolutionary instinct; we feel the need to stand our ground for survival purposes. This is understandable, it’s a tough dog eat dog world out there and sometimes we need to put our foot down. But for those certain special people, we are willing to let it slip and quickly move on. It’s because we value that friendship, or relationship, too much.
It may be that the reason why we were mad at the person in the first place probably was not that strong of a reason. The more we ponder upon a situation, the more we realise how silly or minor it actually is.
Here’s a tip to try to rationalise whether an ‘issue’ as is actually worth the argument: either try or imagine explaining the situation to someone else. Do you sound a bit silly? Does the situation sound minor? If so then allow it. It’s obviously not worth it.
There’s something amazing about friends that’s also the reason why they are so annoying… we can’t get mad at them! This is also a true sign of friendship. So, next time you want to tell a friend off and end up not doing so, just curse them under your breath and laugh it off.. or better still they’ll end up making you smile when you try!